When It Feels Like the Rules Don’t Apply to Everyone

Maybe I am the only person that has ever felt this way, but I am going to be honest, this is a hard question for me. Have you ever noticed that some people seem to skate through life without the same rules applying to them? You know the ones. The ones that no matter what happens, they somehow land on their feet. The ones that always get a pass despite their actions or attitude. The ones who don’t show up for others, but they get excuses made for them. The ones who always seem to be taken care of. Then there are people who show up for everyone, work hard, play fair, and still face resistance. Who still have to “fight” for everything they get.

I’ve caught myself asking that question more times than I can count. But over time, with research, prayer, and a whole lot of soul searching, I’ve learned a few things. Well, I am starting to.

Some people are just masters of perception, but perception and truth don’t always line up. Eventually, integrity reveals itself. Eventually the truth comes out and their true colors are revealed.

Some people simply understand the system differently. They know how to work within it, bend it, or navigate it, not always fairly, but effectively. Maybe some of us simply play it too safe, and shouldn’t always play it safe!

And here comes the hard one, but the one I want you to really lean into. Sometimes, you’re just called to a higher standard. You’re being refined, not restricted. You’re growing! You’re being changed! When you’re meant for greater influence, your accountability will always be higher. It’s not punishment, it’s preparation. And hear me, it’s really a gift!

So today, instead of being frustrated by what feels unfair, remind yourself as I have to do sometimes when that fixed mindset creeps in, and I make myself the victim, remember these things;

Your consistency is your credibility.

Your integrity is your influence.

Your growth will outlast their shortcuts.

And besides, did you wake up to be average?! I certainly did not! Keep showing up, doing the right thing, and leading with joy and purpose because your story isn’t about who got by, it’s about who grew through. It’s about what you did to make others better! It’s about rising above!

So the next time you start feeling this way, do something for yourself! Read something that will help you! Learn something that will push you forward! Listen to something that will elevate your knowledge and focus on what you can control. You! And most of all, be grateful for your journey, and how amazing you are!

With love for you all,

Shauna