We must deal with thoughts that don’t serve us!

Have you ever witnessed someone doing something that was wrong and it really upset you? Sometimes that thing we think is wrong isn’t really even hurting anyone, it’s just something we know is dishonest or unfair. I’m sure we all have had that experience in our life at some point, and as certain as I am sitting here writing this, it will happen a million more times in the future. So what do you do? How do we deal with the fact that it’s so upsetting to us? Is it something within us that needs some work? Could we actually be jealous? Is it making us better?

I have found myself in this exact state of late. I have been upset with a situation that a person is “getting by with.” It doesn’t really have anything to do with me per se, but I am around it. Recently I was unloading my frustration with said situation on my best friend. Thank goodness she is so honest and in my face when she needs to be because I need people to shake me from time to time. People who help me wake up to my thoughts or attitude that need to be changed. Well, let me tell you, she did just that!

As I set and thought about what she said, it dawned on me that quite possibly the reason I was so upset was that deep down, I was jealous that this person is getting away with what they’re doing. For a minute, I wish I could get away with it. Wow!! That’s hard to admit! One thing my growth is teaching me is to get brutally honest with myself! So am I actually jealous because I can’t get away with it? Yes, maybe, but am I really? Would I really be happy getting by doing this thing? Is that thing going to push me farther in living a life of significance even if I could get by doing it?

If we are to grow, we have to get to a point where we can really evaluate our feelings and emotions. We must evaluate why certain situations are really consuming any amount of our time and judgment. Is it serving us? Is it making us better? I’m going to go out on a limb and say that most likely it’s not serving us in any capacity whatsoever. At the end of the day, where we’re striving to go is far from situations and thoughts that bring us down rather than push us forward. Being jealous, or even giving a second thought to what someone else is doing, isn’t doing one thing to get me to the life of purpose that I want to live.

So like I am advising you to do, I spent the day, just one day, letting myself think about this situation. Why was I jealous? Why did I care? Would I really do this thing if I could? Where was my judgment coming from? Then I dug deep enough, peeled back the layers of that onion, and was honest with myself. This jealously was only serving as a deterrent to keep me stuck and stop my growth. You see, I can only control myself, my thoughts and my actions. I don’t want to walk this person’s journey, I want to walk mine.I wouldn’t do this thing I am upset about even if I could. So what do I do? I let it go and change my focus to something that better serves me so I can serve and add value to others. I want to be unstoppable. I want to live my purpose. It is my hope that if you have a situation that doesn’t serve you well taking up too much of your focus and energy, that you too come to the same realization, and do the necessary work to be better, and to become unstoppable.

With love for you all,

Shauna