What do you want? What are you willing to give up?

Last week while in a growth seminar someone asked these questions. What do you want? What are you willing to give up to get it? I attended two seminars last week, and for the life of me can’t remember who said it, but those words resonated with me unlike anything has in quite some time. For days I keep hearing those words. Sometimes we have to give something up to get something.

I have been thinking so much about this lately. What do I really want in life? What do I really want to do? Now, what am I willing to give up to get those things? You might be thinking Shauna, that’s silly. I don’t have to give anything up to get anything. Hang with me for a minute. I think you will see that you do.

Think about this for a minute. If you want to save money and pay off debt, what has to happen? You have to give something up. Maybe it’s your morning cup of expensive coffee. Maybe it’s the latest mobile phone. Maybe it’s lunch out with friends every single day. Maybe it’s clothes that you don’t need because your closets are already busting at the seams. Get the picture now. If you don’t change anything with your finances, what will change? Nothing.

Here’s another one. What about your health? If you want to lose weight and get healthy, what must you give up? Sugar? Alcohol? Fast food? Time in front of the TV? If you don’t change something, you’re going to stay the same. You must be willing to eat healthier, set that alarm for 5 a.m. to work out, come home and hit the neighborhood for a walk, meal prep, etc. Am I right? If you’re not willing to sacrifice anything, will anything change? No!

What about at work? Sometimes we have to lose employees to get good ones. Sometimes toxic people ruin the entire work atmosphere, and until those people are gone, your environment will not grow.

What about our life and relationships? Sometimes we have to remove the wrong people for the right ones to come along. And, this could be distancing yourself from family. It’s not just friends. We have to take an honest evaluation of who we surround ourselves with in all aspects of our lives.

I think I have proven my point now. So what do you want? To grow? To learn something new? To change a bad habit? To get healthy? To be debt free? To move up in your company? To be a better spouse, mother, father, friend, etc.? To be able to travel more? To have the job of your dreams? What is it going to take for you to get there? You may have to momentarily give some things up to get there. Here’s the beautiful thing though, you will accomplish something in the end!

Here’s where it gets hard though. Number 1, we must figure out what our why is. More importantly, number 2, we may have to dig really deep and get to the root of what’s holding us back in the first place. Lack of motivation to do something is surface. This is where I find myself these days.

I say I want to get healthy again, and lose these extra pounds I put on in Covid, but yet my garage gym hasn’t been touched in a couple of weeks. Here’s why. My why for getting healthy hasn’t been big enough. Not only that, but I haven’t dealt with the real root of the problem. Just this week it dawned on me that I haven’t dealt with the real root of my lack of motivation. Deep down, I don’t feel worthy. Deep down something is saying to me, you don’t need to get healthy, keep eating, you feel better emotionally. What’s driving that? What’s really driving that?

I need to deal with some deep issues of not feeling enough. So what is it for you? If you say you want to get healthy, but you’re not, why not? Think about that for a minute. Go sit somewhere in a quiet space and really think about why you’re not accomplishing things you say you want. There is a real root to the problem. It’s deeper than lack of motivation.

Maybe you want to further your education, but you’re letting fear stop you. Where is that fear coming from? Deal with that fear, and what’s holding you back! We should always be learning and growing! That’s important. Don’t let fear stop you! Go get that education or designation or certification that you’ve been dreaming about.

If you really want change in some area of your life, get serious about it, look at the root of the problem, decide what you may have to remove to accomplish it, and then go work your behind off! Life it too short to not accomplish everything we want. There’s enough people out there as an example that it’s been done to prove to you that it can be done. And you know what, sometimes it’s just the journey that’s exciting.

I leave you with this today, what do you want? What will you give up to accomplish it? I hope I’ve made you stop and think today! I hope maybe I have inspired you to dig deep on your why, and to go for it! I hope I have inspired you to fight for you, and your future! Oh my friends, you deserve it! God made us for so much more! Use your talents, find your joy, and go be the amazing you that you are!

With love for you all,

Shauna