Are all people meant to stay in our lives forever?

Have you ever gone through life feeling less than or feeling like you have been everything to everybody else, but never what you really need in life? Have you been the perfect friend, perfect mother, perfect wife, perfect employee but life still leaves you yearning for more and you wonder why when you give so much, why does it seem life gives you so little? Maybe like me, you have been living for everybody else, living the life everybody else wants you to live, but not truly living your life! What do you want?? You are allowed to ask that! Who do you really want in your life? Why does it always seem everybody else always gets what they want and it’s a struggle for you?

What do you want in life? Where do you want to go life? It’s okay to ask that. It’s okay not to know but to be searching! It’s okay to wonder why certain people only come in your life for a reason or a season, no matter how bad it hurts when they leave. I truly believe some day we will understand this, no matter how bad we want them to stay, not everybody is meant to stay in our life. This is tough for somebody like me who cares so deeply and wants everybody in their life and believes the good in every situation.  That is not always the case though, and no matter how bad you want a situation to be different, sometimes it can’t be. This could be a parent, a spouse, child, somebody you’re in a relationship with or even a close friend.

One thing I have learned in my life is that people are always brought into our lives for reason. For a test, for a season only, to teach us something, to love us when we most need to be loved, to be an ear, to be a shoulder, to have our heart, but then when their season is over, it’s time for them to move on and boy does it hurt! But we have to trust the season we are in and where these people belong in our lives, and when they are to leave.

People can tell me I am special all day long, but why did I need them to validate that I am special in the first place? We need to get to a place in our lives where we know what we bring, where we know what have to offer to anybody lucky enough to be in our lives and we don’t need validation from anyone else. Know your worth and it doesn’t belong in another person! Know that some people don’t belong in your life forever!

My wish for everybody is that all your dreams come true! That you know how special you truly are! That you don’t need validation from anyone else to know that and when life is ready, that it truly becomes all that you want it to be, and some day all the right people are aligned in your life! I am one who wants to run, but that’s not always the best answer. Maybe stand still for a second and see where the road is leading you. Maybe stop and see that some people shouldn’t be in your life for you to be great! Maybe you are heading somewhere different, maybe it’s to stay where you are, but you get to decide, YOU get to decide! Nobody else gets to decide that for you!

Make the decision that makes your heart sing and happy!

With love for you all,

Shauna